I have a very lovely daughter 🙂 She is five years plus (updated). She is very intelligent, extremely caring at her age, hard-working and has a way of making me happy whenever I feel depressed, hence, very inspirational. I look at her and I see a great lady of her time, with God by her side as always. She makes me feel so good to have a daughter.
She makes me feel so
good to have a daughter.
As an Educationist of many years, I have equally come across many girls who have turned out to be sources of joy and honour to their families and the school. They have equally made and have been making their parents very proud for having them as children.
On a wider scale, I do not need to start mentioning names of girls or women who have made their families and countries feel so proud of having them. They are everywhere – politics, government, business, science, health, humanities, education, entertainment, and much more. Even as you read my post I am sure your mind is linking you up with these great girls and women who have made themselves household names that command respect, fame and fortune. Some of them have had Presidents of countries bow to greet them. Wow!
So, the question that bothers me is why some parents, especially the men, greatly detest having the girl-child or having them as their first child. In extreme cases, some marriages have broken down simply because the woman either gave birth to a girl, a girl as the first child or has been giving birth to girls. In this regard, I ask: Can a woman determine the gender of the unborn child? Even though I have a Business/Accounting background, I know the answer to this is NO!!! But sadly, men who complain find it very convenient to blame the woman for the gender of the child.
Can a woman determine the
gender of the unborn child?
At this juncture, I ask “what is wrong with the girl-child?” I have heard and read excuses from the men (always from the men) like: not wanting their family names to fade away after the girl gets married; preferring a stronger child (a boy/man) to represent the father when he is not around; or just preferring a male child to be the first child and a host of other reasons.
As a fact, I do not have the right to determine the preference of the parents as regards the gender of their kids. Rather, the main purpose of this post is to shed more light on this very precious gift from God, especially as it has been a source of daily wrangling between couples and a reason for divorces and separations in many cases. I read of a man who abandoned his family when he could no longer cope with a family of six (6) girls (no male child).
If you are a man and you are having this “battle,” please ponder a while. What makes you think a male child will fulfill your aspirations more than the girl-child. What makes you think that your girl-child(ren) will not greatly surpass all your expectations and turn you into a “Belief In The Girl-Child” Campaigner 🙂 Engage in a positive reflection on the fantastic girls and women all over the world who have brought honour, respect, fame and fortune to their families and countries alike.
What makes you think a male child will fulfill
your aspirations more than the girl-child.
That done, change your attitude towards your “gift from God,” wish her (them) well, encourage and support her (them) and make her (them )feel as equally important as her (their) male counterparts.
For me, I love my daughter, just as I love my son. Neither me nor their mum, determined their gender and will not do or say anything that will make me appear as if I am questioning the decision of God concerning their gender. Neither will I create a destructive rivalry between them. The girl-child has been and would continue to be a fantastic creation of God. I can’t misuse, down play or look down upon that which God almighty has given to me 🙂 What do you think?
The girl-child has been and would continue
to be a fantastic creation of God
Thanks for your time.
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