It started with a minor argument over bus fare. Then caution was thrown to the winds. In anger, the passenger hit the bus conductor on the chest. In a twinkle of an eye, the conductor loses consciousness. He staggers. Slums and and became motionless. He dies before help could reach him. At that point, no one cared what the bus conductor did wrongly. The new issue was that the passenger had assumed a new status in life – a murderer.
In another instance, an argument ensued between fans of two English clubs. The argument took a violent dimension. Braking and fighting with bottles was the next. At the end, a fan was stabbed to death. The guy who killed him was picked up and charged for murder. You can rightly guess the rest of the story.
In yet another touching instance, a boy offends the dad and in anger, the dad smashes his head against the wall. The boy becomes unconscious. He dies before getting to the hospital. Imagine a father murdering his own son !!!
In another mind-blowing instance, a girl is angered by an alleged “bullying” by her mother. She she runs to the balcony of their third floor apartment and jumps down. She did not die but broke her neck, legs, one arm….and her spinal cord !
There are so many other instances of anger turned fatal. It happens everywhere – homes, schools, markets, offices and even places of worship.
In every case of anger, there is always an option not to act or speak. But the “voice” that makes us act or speak usually sounds louder. And this is the voice people often listen to. One thing anger does successfully each time it “takes over” an individual is to blind him and his mind from seeing the consequences of his or her actions. It (anger) strikes in less than two seconds – too fast to allow the individual time to think deep. And then in 8 out of 10 cases, it disappears as soon as there is trouble. Usually, the consequences are often more serious than the cause of the anger. The “angered victim” then becomes sober. But its often too late !!!
Anger management is really tough. It takes the grace of God and a strong resolve to be able to put it in check.
Below I share with you my own methods of coping with anger problems or checking anger. Please read on…
It is very necessary to know each other’s characters – your kids, friends, colleagues, students, neighbors and the like. There are some people that take things so simple and are thus not easily angered. Some make mountains out of mole hills. For such people, thread with caution !
Secondly, I walk away from the scene where I am angered. This is very good as it reduces tension both ways. I don’t have anything to lose by doing this. Call me coward if you like 🙂 But I think it sounds better than being called crime-related names. What do you think? 🙂
Another thing I do always is maintaining an unusual calm. I do it a lot when my kids and wife provoke me. It is really working for me. I just started doing it recently and now I do it unconsciously. It seems to have become a part of me. It also helps you deal with health problems like stress, high blood pressure or mental fatique
The method to be used is dependent on the circumstance and the person involved. For instance, I cannot walk out on my boss or and elderly person.
Lastly, irrespective of the circumstance and person involved, it is very good and necessary to be prayerful. Prayers helps a lot in guiding our words, thoughts and actions. It can also cure anger management problems.
So, my friend, some feats of anger end up in very serious fatalities which may include death, like in the cases above. So we ALL have to do everything possible to put it in check. Remember that the devil loves that moment when anger takes over us. So, be wise. Be cautious.
I wish you good luck. We all need loads of it 🙂
Thanks for your time
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